Anti-Bullying Information Sheet for Parents
October is Bullying Awareness Month. All students at Thayer Elementary will have lessons pertaining to bullying. They should be able to identify bullying and know how to respond appropriately. They have learned the terms: bully, target, bystander and upstander. They know the difference between bullying and rude or mean behavior. If your child reports bullying to you, help us help your child. The information below will help you understand what bullying is and how to talk with your child.
What is bullying?
· Bullying is when a child, or group of children, deliberately and repeatedly upset or hurt another child. The person/people doing the bullying will have some form of power over the target.
· Bullying is not one incident of name calling or physical abuse, it is only bullying when it is repeated, deliberate and there is an imbalance of power.
· Bullying can happen anywhere and can involve both adults and children. It can happen at school, on the bus, at home, in the community and online.
How can I tell if my child is being bullied?
Sometimes children who are bullied do not talk about it with parents/caregivers or teachers. They may be concerned that “telling” will make matters worse. Some signs that a child may be experiencing bullying may include:
· Loss of confidence, fearfulness or anxiety
· Changes in eating or sleeping habits, bedwetting
· Health problems, vague headaches or stomach aches
· Unhappiness, tearfulness or mood swings, sudden temper tantrums
· Reluctance to go to school, changes in academic performance
· Lack of friends
· Missing belongings or torn clothing
What should I do if my child tells me they are being bullied?
· Help your child to identify the bullying behavior and ask them:
o What has been happening?
o Who has been involved?
o Where have the incidents occurred?
o Has anyone else seen the bullying behavior?
o Did you do or say anything to get the bullying behavior to stop?
· Discuss some immediate strategies with your child. Make a plan to deal with the bully. Encourage them to:
o firmly say “No!” or “Back-off!”
o walk away, stay with friends
o talk with their teacher, counselor, bus driver or principal
· Become familiar with the school’s anti-bullying policy. It can be found on the school district’s website.
· Contact the school to check that your child has spoken to someone about the problem.
What will the school do?
In situations where bullying occurs, staff at Thayer Elementary may:
· apply disciplinary consequences
· assist students to develop more appropriate social skills
· implement a behavior management plan for individual students
· explicitly teach about conflict and bullying
· address bullying in their curriculum
The school will not give you any personal details of other students involved.
We will not give you any details of consequences given to other students involved because of privacy requirements.
If you have any questions or concerns or would like more information about keeping your child safe, please contact the school counselor, Mrs. Crawford.